The Bo Show

TAKING A SHOT AT BISEXUALITY

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For many of us, it may be pretty difficult to find that special someone. But, imagine having your choice of both sexes? Does is make your love life easier? Does it make you feel confused or overwhelmed? Who do you decide to date? So many choices… so little time… how do you find the man or woman of your dreams when you’re growing up bisexual?

Martha is in her 30’s, and has considered herself a bisexual woman since the age of 13. She recalls being in Junior High School, “I was looking at this boy I really liked, and then I was looking at this girl that I really liked.” She says most of her journey has been about being honest with herself, and telling the truth to whomever she decides to pursue. “I basically told guys that I like kissing girls, and they thought it was cool. Then I would kiss girls, and I would let them know I was actually into boys.”

She admits her feelings felt natural to her, but it wasn’t until she entered college that she began meeting people who didn’t see things as clearly as she did. To some, the idea of being bisexual seemed impossible… too blurry to understand. Martha saw the full picture after walking into the Gay and Lesbian Alliance group on campus. It was surprising to find out the people she turned to for acceptance, gave her the complete opposite. Martha mentions how everyone seemed to reject the idea of bisexuality, “I was even discriminated against by my own people.”

The rejection didn’t stop on campus. It also surfaced at home. Although both her parents suspected her bisexuality, it wasn’t until after confirmation that things got a little messy. “My mom was like, get the hell out of my house.” Her dad was a little bit more receptive, and mentioned how he knew she was bisexual by the company she kept. Eventually her mom did come around, and grew to understand her daughter more. But one thing didn’t change, she always told Martha to keep her sexuality to herself, “My mom used to tell me, “don’t tell them”.”

For a girl who prides herself on being honest with her sexual partners, lying was out of the question. “I’m just going to be an honest person… I’m going to date women, and I’m going to date men, and I’m gonna let them know.” So she began to date… girl, boy, girl, boy, girl, boy… you get the picture. This picture, which once seemed so clear to her, but unbelievable to others, began filling up with man after woman, and woman after man.

She often found herself in the strong and loving arms of a man, and vice versa, “Sometimes I’ve been the strong man.” She fell in love with, and married a woman. Later, she fell in love with, and married a man. She explains how it’s not about a sexual feeling, but rather how somebody makes you feel inside. But, she stays true to her open and honest self, and says you can’t forget about the sex either. It takes a certain kind of man, to have a wife who isn’t afraid to say… “Hey babe… she’s hot!” His response according to Martha, “He’s like, “hell yeah”.”

After years of swapping spit with Steven or Samantha, Michael or Monica, Martha is spilling her bisexual beans. In this episode of “The Bo Show,” Martha chats openly about discovering her bisexuality, dating woman and men, explaining the difference between walking on Mars and visiting Venus. Who says you can’t have it all? Martha says, “Don’t regret the things you’ve done, but regret the things you haven’t done… and I’ve done it all.”